I love Tina Fey. And in some ways I love what she did on Thursday's Weekend Update summer edition. She tapped into a gut level of desperation that so many of us are feeling (and attempting to eat/drink/binge our way out of). And she called Trump and the Nazis funny names. And it felt good … Continue reading Fellow white ladies: Please do more than eat sheet cake
It’s time for all of us to lead
An important reminder popped up in my Facebook feed today: To fellow white people reading this: For concrete tips on what you can do, read White People: Here's How You Can Help After the Racist Attack in Virginia. As the author, Kristen Tea, states, "It’s not enough to tweet condolences or show up once for … Continue reading It’s time for all of us to lead
Accessing the universe
It's been a year of spiritual exploration for me. As I've mentioned before, I'm participating in the Academy of Intuition's Here and Now program, which I must heartily recommend as life-changing. I'm practicing truly being in the moment: Redirecting my attention from my thoughts to the feelings in body, Tuning in to the one energy … Continue reading Accessing the universe
“I guess that wasn’t our apartment.”
Last week Jordan and I were this. close. to renting an apartment that would have saved us $1100/month in rent. (Meanwhile, my friend in St. Louis points out that her entire mortgage is $1000/month... and here I am trying to reduce my rent by that amount.) Anyway, we didn't get it, because the landlord decided … Continue reading “I guess that wasn’t our apartment.”
The trap of “What if?”
What if she isn't happy? What if we can't make rent? What if we made these three choices and then this fourth thing happened — would we all be perfectly happy, then? This is the game that my brain wants to play. It's not playful though, actually, it's arduous. It's torture. I torture myself with … Continue reading The trap of “What if?”
The next right thing for my family
As the writer Glennon Doyle Melton says, when in doubt, choose the next right thing. But how does that work when you're in a family? What if the next right thing for me isn't the same as the next right thing for Ali, isn't the same as the next right thing for Jordan? How do … Continue reading The next right thing for my family
Uggghhh
It's an ugh day— steamy here in NYC, air so thick you could cut it (or slather it all over you like swampy lotion). I have a blister on my foot that's screaming and I had to run an errand and then the person didn't show up and traffic on that block was awful and … Continue reading Uggghhh
The time that song from Moana made me cry
As I've mentioned before, I'm very moved by the Here and Now program I've been doing with the Academy of Intuition. It's powerful stuff, and it's getting me to go deep into my self in ways I have avoided, both willfully and unknowingly, for many, many years. This week's theme is role playing (no, not … Continue reading The time that song from Moana made me cry
Rest in peace, rat
This morning I was walking Clover, when out of the corner of my eye, I saw a dead rat lying in the street, right next to the curb. Stay with me here, because I know rats aren't generally people's favorite subject. But something about this rat was so compelling. It looked so extraordinarily peaceful, its … Continue reading Rest in peace, rat
18 things I’ve learned in 18 years of marriage
Today is my 18th wedding anniversary. In honor of our union / in a coincidental bit of publishing schedule good fortune, today is also the day that McSweeney's published a list Jordan and I wrote, called Thoughts on Marriage From a Couple Who Have Been Married for 18 Years. I hope you enjoy it. (For … Continue reading 18 things I’ve learned in 18 years of marriage
