What Does It Mean to Be a “Good Mother”?

What does it mean to be a “good mother”?

Clearly, it means feeding your kids copious amounts of kale.

Just kidding.

Read my actual thoughts on the matter in this essay over on the Good Mother Myth website.

Thanks to editor Avital Norman Nathman for featuring me on the site. In addition to her blog, The Mamafesto, Avital has a regular series, The Femisphere, for Ms. Magazine’s site, as well as a regular feminist parenting column, Mommie Dearest for The Frisky.  

Here’s how Avital describes a “good mother”:

“Her kids have always slept through the night, and even if they don’t, she still manages to look like she has had eight hours of uninterrupted sleep. There is always a well-balanced, home-cooked meal on her dinner table. She either happily stays at home or holds down a fulfilling job while still finding time to join the PTA, run the school’s book sale, and makes it to every single soccer game. Her house is absolutely spotless, and if it’s not, she can effortlessly laugh it off.  She has the energy and desire for a happy and adventurous sex life, and her partner is always satisfied. She is crafty, creative, and embodies the perfect blend of modern woman and hipster housewife. She is usually white, middle to upper class, heterosexual, and neither too young nor too old.

But above all… she’s a myth. And it’s this myth that divides women and pits mothers against each other while fueling the flames of the manufactured ‘mommy wars.’

Hm. She sounds an awful lot like Melody Bell


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