Today is my 18th wedding anniversary. In honor of our union / in a coincidental bit of publishing schedule good fortune, today is also the day that McSweeney's published a list Jordan and I wrote, called Thoughts on Marriage From a Couple Who Have Been Married for 18 Years. I hope you enjoy it. (For … Continue reading 18 things I’ve learned in 18 years of marriage
Good morning! Time to cozy up to social media with a mug of tea, and — what's this? Oh my god. He WON?? What country am I living in? Apparently one where we now just openly celebrate and reward violence. It's like living in Lord of the Flies. Of course, I realize, this is a … Continue reading Just another mo(u)rning in America
When we experience pain, we make it worse with the stories we tell ourselves about that pain. Those stories are the source of suffering. This is my biggest takeaway so far from the wonderful Here and Now program I'm doing through the Academy of Intuition. (Which I highly recommend.) Pain is inevitable. It's part of … Continue reading Don’t beat yourself up
You guys, I am so into porn. No, not the sad cum-on–your-face variety. I'm talking AIRBNB LISTINGS. I'm talking Instagram accounts that show me LIFE IN THE HUDSON VALLEY. (Red Cottage Rentals I'm looking at you.) I am so into this shit. In some ways, the pleasure of selecting a cabin to rent in Phoenicia, NY … Continue reading The pleasure of escapist porn
I recently met up with a friend who is burned out from a demanding job, and worried that she's bringing the stress home to her family. "How long have you been feeling this way?," I asked. "Probably since January," she said. Oh, the month the asshat was inaugurated president? "I'm not sure that timing is … Continue reading Get some rest
(Good old Amanda, asking the small questions.) We're coming to you live from Carroll Gardens, Brooklyn, on a hot-as-summer May afternoon, where we're marinating in existential angst. Today's special: deep, probing questions about the nature of power. I've written about how my sense of power is tied up in my income. ("It eats away at your … Continue reading What is real power?
The other day, in the wake of the news of Comey's firing, I posted the following on Facebook: It sparked a fire storm of comments. Several fellow parents wrote in to say that since the election they'd gotten their children passports and renewed their own, to which I replied: What are we waiting for? I … Continue reading Is it immoral to move to another country right now?
My daughter is five today. Five. years. old. Five years of mothering. Mother: A verb, meaning, "to love in agony and elation." FIVE YEARS. Oh she talks and my heart melts. Oh her sweet little hand. Her bottom. Oh how I sometimes still long for freedom. For quiet. For a morning of meandering in laziness and … Continue reading Gimme a five
"Congratulations on your unemployment" I was walking my dog, Clover, in the middle of the afternoon yesterday (something you can do when you're unemployed), when a neighbor stopped to pet her, and we got to talking. "Do you work from home?", my neighbor asked. "Well," I hesitated, because for so many years I did work … Continue reading The perks of unemployment
It's become increasingly apparent to me that I am always looking for a shortcut to feeling happy. We all are, right? Booze, drugs, social media 'likes' — anything to give us a quick hit of dopamine or a way to dull the pain. My vices aren't obvious. I guess I'd categorize them as a mix … Continue reading There’s no shortcut to happiness