When we experience pain, we make it worse with the stories we tell ourselves about that pain. Those stories are the source of suffering. This is my biggest takeaway so far from the wonderful Here and Now program I'm doing through the Academy of Intuition. (Which I highly recommend.) Pain is inevitable. It's part of … Continue reading Don’t beat yourself up
If it's been a while since you really felt like yourself, I highly recommend trying out these two habits for a while and seeing how you feel.
In my last post, I wrote about growing up with a fear of having a mid-life crisis. This fear, and repeated viewings of Dead Poet's Society ("Carpe Diem!"), instilled in me a stubborn insistence on leading an examined, purposeful life. I could die any day - any moment - and so what I did with my time mattered very much. I would take nothing for granted. I would infuse my life with meaning - align my work and life with my values, pursue my dreams, and (as Henry David Thoreau entreatied) "live the life I imagined."
There's just one problem: This approach to life, however zestful, is fundamentally based on fear... of emptiness. And life can't run on fear, just like a car can't run on fumes...
I grew up watching so many movies about people having mid-life crises. I swore to myself, "That will never be me. I'll never wake up one morning and realize my life is a hollow shell. I will live my life deliberately, and with purpose."
What does your daily environment look like, and what effect does that have on your outlook on life?
I'm behind the curve on this one*, but I'm reading The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin and finding it very inspiring. I kind of wanted to hate it - it sounded so... chipper. And self-helpy. But it's actually full of practical examples of how Rubin created more happiness in her everyday life, inspired by a … Continue reading The Happiness Project
I'm coming across a lot of things this morning that are making me happy, and I thought I'd spread the love...
I recently came across a quote (I can't remember where, or I'd attribute it) that said something to the effect of: "There are two ways to become rich. One is to make a lot of money. The other is to need less." We choose our lifestyles. The average American has so much more *stuff* than … Continue reading How Much Do You Need?