I realized: In clinging to my connection with my daughter, I am trying to control it, and, in a way, to control her. And I can't. And I don't want to.
We aren't trained for "and." We are trained that the enjoyable must be at odds with the challenging. And yet the two extremes co-exist, nearly constantly.
For the last couple months I’ve been part of a super-cool experiment called E-mprov, in which teams of improvisers from all over the world gather together online each week to do improv shows via Google Hangout or Skype.
As I mentioned yesterday, I've been reading An Improvised Life: A Memoir by the actor Alan Arkin. Tonight I read the book's final passage and loved it so much I had to share it here: "In the final analysis, it's all improvisation. We're all tap dancing on a rubber raft. We like to think otherwise, so we plan our lives, we plot, we figure, we find careers that will guarantee us an early retirement, we look for relationships that are permanent, we fill out forms, we do scientific experiments, we write rules -- all in an attempt to solidify, concretize, and control this universe of ours that refuses to be pigeon-holed....