I realized: In clinging to my connection with my daughter, I am trying to control it, and, in a way, to control her. And I can't. And I don't want to.
I do not mean to suggest it's all rainbows and cupcakes. Of course there are times when it is grueling and heartbreaking and dull. But I am a better person for being her mother.
The announcement that Netflix will offer a year of paid leave for new parents is great... for Netflix employees. But what about everyone else?
I take a break from picturesque bike rides and drinking beer on the banks of the city's canals to muse on how the Dutch handle this whole "balance" thing.
On wanting room for angst on a rainy Sunday but needing to pull it together and parent instead.
I met Ted because my daughter wouldn't stop talking about his son. They went to daycare together at the time (before Ted left us for Los Angeles!!), and she would come home talking about him every day, to the point where I realized, "We need to have this kid over." Ted and his awesome wife Janina came, too, and we ate bagels and drank bloody marys and talked about living meaningful lives and it was, as Ted would later put it, "A great hang." Fast-forward to a month ago when I got to see an amazing work of art that Ted composed as part of BAM's Next Wave festival (which I wrote about the other day). It made me curious to know more about his creative process, how he managed to make a living as a composer and how he balanced art-making with fatherhood. Read on for his characteristically thoughtful answers -- and do yourself a favor and check out his work at tedhearne.com.
My 18-month-old is hysterical, so I eat my feelings and give thanks for having an incredible partner. And I avow my love for her, no matter whether she's happy or sad, sweet or sour, from now until the end of time.
I will carry water when you’re thirsty. I will place honey on your tongue. I will fill your belly with eggs & kisses. Photos by YST, Siona Karen, foodiesathome.com & yours truly (that's me & Alison).
As a new chapter of my life begins, I want my book to be a cool graphic novel, filled with poetry and language that moves you to your core. I think that's the book I'll write -- one my daughter will enjoy reading.
Motherhood doesn't scare me. What scares me -- terrifies me, really -- is what motherhood will do to the rest of my life. Put simply: I don't want to be a douchebag.